Ramblings and Ruminations

A no-longer single woman's guide to her universe


September 2, 2012

We've picked a date.

Yes, I am grinning like a fool.


O fudge

This morning, David and I were chatting with our "train group" - the folks we stand with on the platform everyday - and we started joking about next May when Sarah and Aaron will both be graduating college.  I said something about it being just my luck that both kids would be graduating on the same day - ha ha. 

Guess what.

They are.  I checked.

O brother.

One graduating in Vermont and the other on Long Island and both on the same day: May 19, 2013.

Anyone have a Tardis they can loan me?  A time winder?  A way back machine?

I am so screwed.


O boy...

I haven't been around in a while, have I?  Thanks to all my friends here who have not dropped me.  Work, life and FaceBook have been monopolizing my time. 

Sarah (a.k.a. "da Sparrow") has been properly shipped off to England, where taldragon and several other of our friends there are making sure she is safe, happy and occupied on the weekends.  She is enjoying her classes, but her workload is pretty light so she's had lots of time to travel around.  She's been to London twice and she and a bunch of friends are going to Scotland next week for a few days.  She's planning on splitting her spring break time between Italy and (I think) Spain.  Or maybe France.  She wanted to go to Greece, but things are not very stable there at the moment.  I miss her like crazy, but we message on FB and Skype frequently, so it isn't so bad.

Aaron is still living with Lauren.  He's doing very well in school and at work.  She is pretty much not doing anything.  Her mother passed away in early November, which was sudden but not really.  Her mom was a serious diabetic who refused to take care of herself.  Pretty much a recipe for disaster.  Then Lauren's grandmother died a few weeks ago, so her life has been pretty chaotic.  There is a lot there, but I don't have the strength to go into it right now.  For another post.

The big news is that I am engaged.  David proposed to me yesterday morning at the train station - kind of fitting for us, if you know our story.  I was very shocked, promptly burst into tears but remembered to say "YES".  I am very happy.  He is wondering what took him so long.  Well, yeah...  Anyway, the happy event will take place sometime this year, probably in the summer.  We can't do anything until Sarah comes back - she'd kill us!  She doesn't come home until June 15th, so we have some time to figure this all out.

Yes, I am girly enough to want an engagement ring.  This is the one I picked out and David is going to get it for me.  It isn't real - well, it is real gold, but the stones are CZ.  The love is real, I don't care if the stones are fake.  It is a beautiful ring and it will make me happy.

Besides, as David says, it is just a placeholder for the important thing, which is the wedding band.  This is what we've picked out for our wedding bands:

Or possibly this:

These are handmade rings from a craftswoman in Vermont.  They are very suited to us. 

Now we have to figure out where we want to get married - up in Vermont, which means our friends would have to travel - or in New York.  We might have the ceremony in Vermont and then throw a party back home.  We'll see.  It won't be anything elaborate.  There won't be any saying "yes to the dress".  That's fine.  I had all that and I didn't want it then, don't want it now.

I'm very happy and that's what matters.

So, how are all of you?  Do you even remember me?

Hugs to all!


Goodnight, Irene...

Well, we are under a mandatory evacuation order.  Yes folks, Hurricane Irene has set her sloe-eyed sights on Long Island and the rest of the tri-state area, after she gets finished with the southern part of the east coast.  We live far enough south on Long Island that we are under the mandatory order issued by our county executive.  They are making a very big deal of this storm, enough to make me very nervous.
Right now, Irene is listed as a Category 2 storm and hopefully she will weaken as she comes up the coast.  But even a Cat 1 storm making a direct hit on NYC and the surrounding environs is a bad thing.  A very bad thing.  The Long Island Rail Road, Metro North Rail and the NYC subway system will all shut down tomorrow at noon. The subway system has never shut down like this. 

My son and his girlfriend will head north with her mother, to a friend's house up in Orange County.  David and I will be leaving soon to start driving to Vermont.  We had our vacation all planned out anyway, but we're leaving early to get ahead of the evacuating masses.  We will stay on the road for a few hours an then (hopefully) find a motel to get a few hours of sleep.  Then we'll finish the ride up to Burlington, VT and get Sarah moved into her dorm tomorrow.  (Come on, aren't you jealous?)  After she's settled, we will head up to Smugglers' Notch where my timeshare will welcome us.  By then we will collapse and sleep.  And worry because the worse will be hitting here sometme on Sunday.

What, me worry?

O yeah.


People, look up!!

I had a nice encounter on the train this morning and it got me thinking.  We see the same woman every morning, she gets on a stop or 2 after we do. She is very lovely, always impecably dressed.  I always check out to see what she is wearing because I know she will look amazing.  We've never spoken, but I get a kick out of looking at her beautiful clothes and seeing how she accessorizes every day.  David didn't have to go to work today so I rode in alone and this woman sat next to me.  We rode in silence just about the whole way until we were in the tunnel on the final approach to Penn Station.  I was getting my bag and packback ready and she asked if I wanted to get up (I was against the window, she was on the aisle).  I said no, that I would wait.  (Background: David and I usually get up and go to the door a bit early because he has to catch another train to New Jersey from Penn Station and sometimes we run late.)  We started to chat a bit and I told her that the dress she wore yesterday was fabulous (which it was!).  She thanked me and told me that she watches David and I every morning, and that she is a bit jealous of "what you have - I want that".  She said that she sees the way he looks at me and how much love is there and she thinks it is so wonderful.  I got a little ferklempt.  It was really sweet.  I told her that I always check out her wardrobe and I admire her style.  She looks sort of like a shorter Iman (wife of David Bowie, incredible fashion model).  She told me she works for Donna Karan and we chatted a little about fashion, body image and getting fit.

It was a lovely conversation and it made both of us smile as we left the train. 

It also made me think that encounters like this are becoming more rare, as we spend so much time with our heads buried in various electronic devices or plugged into them so we cannot hear what is around us.  I love talking to strangers.  I've made so many friends that way.  But it is harder to make friends when everyone is in their own little world.  There is less eye contact, less casual conversation and less friendliness in general.  That makes me sad.

Unplug.  Leave the iPod in your pocket for a while.  Take off the headphones.  Don't check the Blackberry every minute. 

Connect with people.  Look up and smile.

Now you can't hear me,
your ears are truly sealed.
You can't speak either,
your mouth is filled.
You can't see nothing,
and pinball completes the scene.
Here comes Uncle Ernie to guide you to
Your very own machine.


Gee, it's been a while...

Hi! Miss me?Collapse )

OK, I had better get moving.  Lots to do here!  Just found out I am going to DC on Monday and staying overnight.  Kim, are you listening??  Dinner on my expense account???


A meme because I am sleepy

Cross out what you have done.
graduated high school
smoked a cigarette
kissed someone
gotten so drunk you passed out
ridden every ride at an amusement park
collected something really stupid
gone fishing
watched four movies in one night
gone long periods of time without sleep
lied to someone
snorted cocaine
failed a class
been in a car accident
been in a tornado
done hard drugs
watched someone die
been to a funeral
burned yourself  By accident though
run a marathon
cried yourself to sleep
spent over $200 in one day
flown on a plane
written a 10 page letter
gone skiing. 
been sailing
had a best friend
lost someone you loved
shoplifted something
been to jail
dangerously close to being in jail
had detention
skipped school
got in trouble for something you didn’t do
stolen books from the library
gone to a different country
dropped out of school
been in a mental hospital
watched the “harry potter” movies
had an online diary
fired a gun
gambled in a casino
had a yard sale
had a lemonade stand
actually made money at the lemonade stand
been in a school play
taken a lie detector test
swam with dolphins
gone to sea world
voted for someone on a reality tv show
written poetry
read more than 20 books a year
gone to europe
used a coloring book over age 12
had surgery
had stitches
taken a taxi

seen the washington monument
had more than 5 im’s/online conversations going at once
had a drug or alcohol problem
been in a fist fight
suffered any form of abuse
had a hamster
pet a wild animal
used a credit card
gone surfing in california
done “spirit day” at school
dyed your hair
gotten a tattoo
had something pierced
gotten straight a’s
been on the honor roll
known someone with hiv or aids
taken pictures with a webcam
started a fire
gotten caught having/going to a party while parents were gone


Shop for a Good Cause

Spring is in the air and  your wardrobe looks a little frayed?  Have no fear!  Help is on the way!

My daughter works at The Gap and a couple of times a year the employees get to distribute a special coupon to friends and family. It will entitle you to 30% off your purchase at The Gap, Old Navy, Banana Republic or the Gap Outlet store and 5% of what you spend will go to the charity of her choice: the Juvenile Diabetes Research Foundation.

Here is the
link to the coupon – spend a lot!! It’s for a good cause!


Slightly off kilter

I worked from home yesterday mostly because the weather was forecast to be lousy: heavy rain and lots of wind.  I didn't have any sessions scheduled and I figured I could stay home, make some chicken soup and a nice roast for dinner.  The weather was as promised so I was glad to be home.  I stopped at the grocery store after I took David to the train station and got the makings for soup and matzo balls.  Dumped the chicken, herbs and veggies into my enormous stock pot and added water and started it boiling.  Logged into the office and started working, but had to quit in the afternoon.  

Why?  Because I am bleeding again.  The bad kind.  I've had 2 colonoscopies in the past 2 years, both times because of this kind of bleeding.  This time the bleeding was accompanied by really bad abdominal pains yesterday. I called my doctor's office and spoke to one of the partners.  He said I should go to the ER, but I didn't.  I waited a while and the pain stopped.  He called me again this morning to check up on me.  I told him the bleeding was still going on but the stomach pain stopped.  He said I could either go to the ER or come in and see him on Monday, which is what I'm going to do.

On the plus side, the soup turned out great.  Me?  I'm still worried.  I would really like to know why I have had so many episodes of this bleeding within the last 2 years.  They keep looking but not finding anything more than a few hemorrhoids. 



I wasn't tagged, but I'm doing it anyway

FIRST: If you've been tagged, you must write your answers in your own LJ and replace any question that you dislike with a new, original question.
SECOND: Tag eight people.

1. Favorite song right now?:
Jeez... I don't know.  I don't do current music, for the most part.  I think the last current song I liked was "Viva La Vida" by Coldplay when that was playing on the radio.  I guess "My Life Would Suck Without You" from the Glee cast would qualify.

2. Last album you bought / downloaded?:
I just downloaded one this morning: "The Secret Language of Birds" by Ian Anderson.

3. Last movie you watched? Did you like it?:
"Mermaids"  Really enjoyed watching it again.

4. Three things that are super-annoying at the moment?:
The Skank (see previous journal entries if you don't know who that is)
Most of the people in NYC
Having to finish writing my self-assessment form for my job (which is what I should be doing now rather than writing this)

5. If you had to spend time in prison for any crime, what would it be?:
Assaulting someone who was hurting someone I love.

6. What's really scary? 
Spiders.  Spiders really scare me.

7. Name two items nearest to you:
My Droid X
My can of Arizona iced green tea with ginseng (if you see one, you know I am nearby)

8. What makes you smile?
Getting a call from my daughter.

9. Two things you're excited for this year?
Moving to Vermont
Getting a bonus next month, first one since 2008

10. Your favorite ice cream flavor?  
Mint chocolate chip, but the really good stuff with the shaved chocolate.

11. Guiltiest pleasure?
Project Runway

12. What are doing right now? 
Well, I should be working.  See the above whine about doing my self-assessment.

13. What is your biggest pet peeve:
Idiots who wander the streets with their faces buried in some electronic device and don't pay attention to where they are going.  And people who wear too much perfume and make me gag, sneeze and wheeze.

14. Worst movie you've ever seen? 
Hmm, can't really think of one right now.

15. Best way to relax?

16. Favorite quote / lyric?
This too shall pass.

17. Who's your celebrity crush?
Patrick Stewart, Sam Elliot, Liam Neeson

18. Say something to the person who tagged you:
Nobody tagged me.

I'm not going to tag anyone either - do it if the spirit moves you. :)

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